Emptiness

In their pursuit of happiness, I often hear people say that they have followed their path in life, they have the career they always wanted, a loving family the ability to easily acquire all the things they want. Yet they quietly share that there also exists an emptiness within them. I wonder about the term empty, what does it really mean? Can you fill this emptiness? I don’t think so, I believe that is what we try to do in many forms, be it food, buying stuff, alcohol, the list goes on… the emptiness still remains. Perhaps, the emptiness is really more like a vacuum, a black hole and the more we stray from our life purpose and ignore what brings us joy and ignites our passion. The more intense the pull or vacuum becomes. Somewhat of a defense mechanism for the soul.

Underneath the many layers and experiences we have in our lives lies the answer. The way to disconnect this pull is to step into your soul purpose. Layer by layer begin to shed the beliefs you have held for so long and allow your light to shine. Breakthrough the blocks that were created by experiences you have had in your life. Ultimately, it is about giving yourself permission to “be YOU” It seems so simple, yet it can be such a struggle. However, the moment you become aware of this, is the moment you will begin to change. To be powerful is to express yourself fully and share your unique voice in the world. To be powerful is to fully embrace your unique gifts and share them with joy and passion. To be powerful is to listen to that part of you that already knows who you are becoming and take action with every awareness.

I give you permission to step out into the world and be “YOU”…try it, it feels great.

There is a beautiful song which I absolutely love, appropriately named “Empty” by Ray LaMontagne which I have shared below. There is a wonderful line  “well I looked my demons in the eyes, lay bare my chest, said do your best to destroy me”….to me he is saying…I am me, take it or leave it.

Who are you becoming?

In the last 3 years as I have been building my Life Coaching practice the question that comes up the most is; “What is Life Coaching?” This can be a difficult question to answer because the answer will be different for everyone in relation to what they are wanting and needing to experience. The other thing is that it is not a tangible product that you can pick up and look at and experience and try on in a way that is safe for you. What I mean by that is that you can go to a clothing store and try something on in the privacy of a dressing room and nobody needs to know what that experience was for you. You can also try on Life Coaching through a sample session and there is an aspect of exposing yourself. The question that then needs to be answered is Why? Why would I need to hire a coach?

So the answer to that question is “Who are you becoming?”. Where in your life do you experience a feeling of emptiness? Where in your life are you not honoring some or all of your values? Are you aware of your deepest values? Are you living your purpose in this life? If you could live your fullest life, what would it look like? What would be different? What would you no longer tolerate? What would you want more of? Where do you experience joy? Where do you not experience joy? Do you believe there is another path in life other than the one you think you should be following? What must you have? Where do your passions lie?

Working with a coach is about being “seen” and acknowledged and exploring the answers to “your” questions. You gain awareness and through that awareness you begin to see different possibilities and outcomes in your life. It is about experiencing a safe place to explore your dreams and ideas of how you may want to experience life differently. A place to play with the possibilities and not focus on the should’s and have to’s that are so prevolent in our lives.

Perhaps you have a passion to share something with the world in a big and powerful way yet you feel so attached to the 9-5 of everyday life and you need to be responsible. You want freedom to enjoy life to its fullest and it feels like you would be letting everyone down by exploring the possibilities, yet there is an entrepreneurial spirit burning inside you. Or maybe you just want to be able to spend as much time with your kids as you can, while you can. The scenarios are endless and so are the possibilities.

The fact is that you can try on coaching. I offer a free 30 min. consultation where you can experience life coaching. Either by phone or in person. Your choice. Coaching can help you explore who you are becoming.

Ross Tayler
Professional Life Coach
www.workplacealchemy.com
604-815-7089